Friday, October 31, 2008

This shudda been the year…

With the 42 month presidential campaign almost at an end (thanks be to God!)… with all the SNL folks (formerly known as The Not-Ready for Prime Time Players) now doing prime-time jabs and jokes… with W playing in the theaters and Jerry Falwell watching from a better seat and “knowing even as he is known…” with two almost forgotten wars raging and gas prices as well as Wall Street falling… with the Christian Science Monitor cooling it’s presses and Northwestern Airlines becoming Delta… with Bill Gates richer than anybody ever dreamed a man could be and Osama still eating halal somewhere… Yep, this is the year I should have run for president.  What could have messed things up more?
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So what happened to trust?

One of the real and rare commodities in the world – and the Church – is Trust.  Real, honest-to-God Trust. 

Trust is the relational glue that holds individuals together as friends, colleagues, teams, buddies, and spouses.  Trust makes organizations work for the long haul and causes churches to thrive.  Trust holds marriages together, produces good children and builds community.  Trust causes relationships to grow and become strong.  If I can’t trust you, I can’t walk with you.  If I count my fingers and check my rings each time we shake hands – just to make sure you didn’t rip one off – I can’t really hang out with you.  If I feel belittled and co-opted whenever I’m with you, I can’t trust you.  Sorry.  We’ll have no relationship.

I teach that Trust is like a bridge built between two people.  It begins from each side of the great chasm of indifference and isolation intending to meet somewhere in the middle.  Normally, we begin building from each side hoping that we will actually meet in the middle.

We begin building with lightweight materials – grass and bamboo – because they are easy to use and allow only limited transport.  A light, flimsy Trust-bridge is a means of protection: it allows limited access into my life and low expectations from me.  But ultimately, the goal of the Trust-bridge is Trust development so that it becomes steel and stone and able to transport anything necessary between the two individuals.  A well developed Trust-bridge is a two-laned, concrete and steel relational structure that can handle any traffic no matter how heavy and burdensome.  But that doesn’t happen overnight and without intentionality.

Sometimes Trust-bridge building begins from one side only to find that in the middle of the gorge they meet nothing.  No effort from the other party.  And all that work is just left hanging: a monument to unreciprocated trust.  Sometimes people talk about building the bridge, but just never get to it.  And those who put forth the effort probably will be reluctant to do it again.

And then sometimes one of the parties sabotages the Trust-bridge.  Boom!  Just blows it up through some intentional – or unintentional – act, attitude or betrayal.  Trust is broken.  The bridge is now in disrepair and nothing can be transported.  Happens a lot in marriages.  And churches.

When Trust is broken, it is hard to replace and rebuild. Proverbs 18:19 says: An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city, and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.  When Trust is broken and people left offended – the bridge is gone and the energy used to reach out is now used to build walls. 

And if anyone takes the time and energy to rebuild they’ll begin again with grass and bamboo.  It will be flimsy and fragile.  A bridge built for decoration not transportation.

I recently read somewhere that “church hurt” is the worst hurt.  And I know it’s true, not so much because of my experience – mine’s been mostly good! – but because of the people to whom we minister. 

What’s the reason for “church-hurt”?  Because we all came into church expecting better than we got.  We came into the church either looking for Jesus, or because we had found Jesus.  And we somehow expected “church people” (especially leaders!) to be like the Jesus we found: loving, kind, honest and vulnerable.  We came, looking to be loved and to give love.  We came needy but yet over-flowing.  We came looking for Jesus and authenticity and found some charlatans, snake-oil salesmen, game-players and devious people masquerading as Men of God.

We trusted those leaders and they let us down.  We built the bridge – usually all the way from our side – and the goods they delivered back were bogus.

Some would say that expecting church-people to be like Jesus is an unreal hope and naturally people will get hurt.  But when it comes to church, transparency, authenticity and love are not too much to ask.  And that’s a lot like Jesus.

We have trusted Jesus.  Because he has appeared trust-worthy; we expect that we can trust His People.

I’ve been told that people must earn our trust, that they must be trust-worthy.  And for the most part I agree.  But often people expect you to trust them because of their position and job title.  For example, a Pastor/Apostle/Elder/Deacon/Overseer/Chairman (choose one) should be trustworthy.  If he’s in that position of leadership, he should be worthy of trust.  Should be.  But so many leaders are totally unaccountable, self-proclaimed and insecure that they drag so much garbage and baggage into the church and front office and the pulpit that they themselves are not capable of trust.  They put up the Leadership (Pastor/Apostle/Elder/Deacon/Overseer/Chairman (choose one)) Facade – aloof, dignified, anointed, Gnostic – and pull out and play the Leadership Card whenever they need to be trusted.  These cards, much like the God-Told-Me Card, when played cannot be trumped.  My experience tells me that people who play the Leadership Card often and as a symbol of either authority or trust probably have trust-worthiness issues.  Don’t trust them.  They want to be trusted because of their title or office without building the bridge.  (Yikes, did I say that out loud?  Did I actually write that down?  Did I really put it on the Interweb?  What’s wrong with me?)

Positional leadership, although it should bring Trust, is no guarantee.  People lead because supposedly someone has put me in the position to lead.  Maybe God.  Maybe an Apostle or Bishop or Board or Committee.  And that should guarantee they are trustworthy.  But not necessarily.

Don’t get me wrong, one doesn’t have to be perfect to lead.  (But it would help!  Hahahaha!)  But you do have to be in the process of being perfected.  And the perfecting process is the place ministry becomes real.

We can never effectively minister out of our hurt.  We do effectively minister out of our brokenness.  The process of moving from “hurt” to “brokenness” is the long and winding road of life.

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Thursday, October 30, 2008

Taren and Nathan in Japan

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Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Traveling and being with family and friends…

Phyllis and I are back in Pensacola.

Last week was wild and wonderful.

  • Monday we flew into Pensacola from a weekend of ministry in Saginaw, Michigan. It was great being with the New Life Christian Fellowship folks there. They are my heroes! They are “doing the stuff” in so many creative and missional ways! They’re doing a lot of things outside the walls to reach the community and equipping a bunch of folks inside the walls to do a better job…
  • Tuesday we were in the office at Globe International preparing for IGM ‘09, the third year of training for missional-thinking, cross-cultural people. Lots to do in preparation…
  • Wednesday we traveled to Donalsonville, GA for lunch with my mom and thsn on to Valdosta, GA for dinner with our daughter Jane and her friend, Mike…
  • Thursday I had lunch and spent the afternoon with my friend, colleague and pastor L.A. Joiner. We talked about many Kingdom things — some encouraging, some discouraging — and laughed a lot. It’s such a privilege to have friends and com padres with whom we can walk for years and decades.
  • Friday night we attended the Ft. White High School football game. My brother Keith is the Administrator there (do they still call those guys ‘principals’?) and my two nephews - Matt and Levi - play on the team. They lost for the first time this season, but they played well.
  • Saturday, we had a late brunch with Zach and Jane as part of his all day birthday celebration. Fantastic food that chef Zach prepared. I flipped channels between the Georgia/LSU game and the FSU/Virginia Tech game. About wore out the remote! We ate again that night with a Greek food extravaganza that Phyllis prepared! Ate late - like the Cypriots; ate much - like the Cypriots and rolled off to bed very late.  Like the Cypriots.
  • Sunday we rolled out of bed after a Saturday of feasting to be part of New Covenant Church’s services. We’ve been part of NCC for over twenty-five years. What a great bunch of people! For lunch great friends John and Linda Sparks ( I married them a long time ago!) and their son Stephen (who’d been with us a few weeks ago in Pensacola) came for a Papa John’s pizza lunch. After John and Linda left, I slept in my recliner! What a party animal I am! Although it wasn’t very cold - just a little chilly - we lit the patio chiminea - and sat around a chatted by the fire.
  • Monday morning I had a Cracker Barrel (Ed Stetzer calls it a yard sale with food) breakfast with Mike and then we packed up and drove home to Pensacola. We stopped at Fresh Market in Tallahassee for sandwiches and ate them at a rest stop on I-10.
So, tonight we have a host of people coming for the IGM Reunion… we’ll have students return to chat about what they’ve done since graduation. And they will bring friends who are interested in attending in January.  Of course, Lauren is in Hawaii with Surfing the Nations, and Nathan and Taren are in Japan, so they won’t actually catch us up. Lauren sent an email and Taren’s promised a video.

So much for the Hatcher travelogue… we are busy and happy!  And tired.

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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

It’s about us!

Frank Viola - that flame-throwing author with the shaved head - recently posted this:

The great evangelist D.L. Moody once attended an “Exclusive” Plymouth Brethren convention in which the conference hosts put up a large banner in the conference room which read, “JESUS ONLY.”

After one of the sessions was over, someone had left the door open. While the conference attendees were sleeping, a wind blew into the doorway and knocked part of the banner down. The following morning, when everyone walked into the conference room, the sign read, “US ONLY.” The part of the banner that had the letters “JES” had been torn down!

Presumably, God was finding them out. “US ONLY” was the message they were unwittingly sending to the world.

Sectarianism, elitism, and exclusiveness are like body odor. Everyone else can smell it except those who have it.

One of the outstanding marks of our Lord’s character is His radical inclusivity. When Jesus walked this earth, He despised the spirit of separatism, elitism, and self-righteousness. And He still does today (Hebrews 13:8, NKJV).

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Thursday, October 16, 2008

Oxen in the stall…

I was just reading and praying and thinking this morning. In Proverbs 14:4, it says: “Where there are no oxen, the manger is clean, but abundant crops come by the strength of the ox.”

And I’m reminded that ministry is about cleaning up messes. If there are no oxen, the stall is clean, shiny, spotless. Ideal. We look for things to be tidy and orderly. That’s what we want. Especially in human relations. But I’m always reminded that ministry is about messes – dirty, smelly, poopy stalls. The sign of occupation is the mess we find there.

If our goal in ministry is neat, clean, orderly lives, forget it. Ministry is about living in the mess and understanding that the oxen – the people we have around us – are both the producers of the dirty stall as well as the harvest.

I think about this as I work with people. And that’s what I do – and have done all my life – I work with people. Mostly, people with grand ideas but no experience, or money or connections. People with tons of baggage from bad families, from bad relationships, from substance abuse, from people abuse. People who bring loads of poop from other lives, other relationships, other ways of living. These are the folks who mess up the stall.

But these are the people who also will bring in the harvest.

I get tired of using the shovel to work with people to clean the stalls. I grow weak and weary. I’m looking for people who have it all together – cool people with perfect lives! Who don’t need a lot of fix-up. As my friend Larry Nunnally says, “I’m looking for a better class of sinner.” I’m looking for people who are ok when you find them.

But experience tells me that:

  1. There are no really good people… Oh, we like to think so. We like to think that there are Good Guys and Bad Guys like in a black-and-white movie, obvious to everyone. And of course we are part of the good-guy-white-hat-bunch. But I’m convinced there are no good guys. There are only bad guys and Jesus. And it’s Jesus that makes the difference. We are all capable of anger, hatred, prejudice, covetousness, lust and deception. Only with Jesus supernaturally a part of our every breath and heartbeat is there a chance at goodness.
  1. Potential for greatness is in us all, but marred by the propensity to sin and fall short. The only way that potential is ever actualized is in discipleship/mentoring situations that are found in community. We will become our “worst self” if left alone having no input form others. And the poop in our stalls will become “normal” in our thinking and our perception. We’ll grow accustomed to the smell and the grime. We’ll accept it as a healthy lifestyle and environment. And we’ll never be useful in the harvest – our greatest destiny. We are made for community. Others, who love us and give us grace, draw out the greatness that we have.
  1. There are no really good functional families… Again we like to think there are. We like to think there are perfect ones. And I wish there were. We’ve listened to Dr. Dobson and have purchased the books and have bought into the idea that somehow if we “do it right” we can have perfect kids and great families. And somehow we negate the fact that we still – even with our best intentions – mess up. We still fail to be perfect fathers and mothers. We still fail to build self-esteem all the time. We still lose our temper and get frustrated. And don’t get me wrong some families are better than others and those that work intentionally to make them better probably are better.

But sometimes we forget that God has no grandchildren and that everyone has their own faith journey, their own trek to wholeness and usefulness.

I was chatting with a young lady recently about a failed relationship with a young man and she talked about her family: divorced parents – adulterous father, manic-depressive mother, jailed brother, schizophrenic sister and herself – serving God and growing in her relationship with Jesus. The boyfriend had come from the “perfect Christian home”: father and mother married forever, sweet blond church-going sister, himself tall, dark and handsome. The guy had said to her that she was selfish and when she got her “issues dealt with” maybe they could have a relationship. She felt belittled, betrayed and hurt. Her “issues” – her baggage – might take a lifetime to deal with. Poop in her stall. And this guy seemed to be saying she wasn’t good enough for him and his family.
What we need is love and grace to help deal with issues. Although the guy sounds like he has the right pedigree – all the right papers – he might not have the right heart. Maybe there’s a problem with pride. And maybe a little judgment. I know the girl; I know her heart. She’s shoveling poop she inherited but planning for harvest. There’s nothing inferior about her.

I’m convinced that all families are dysfunctional to varying degrees. The reason they’re dysfunctional is because they are inhabited by dysfunctional, imperfect, in-need-of-grace people who poop in the stall, but have the potential for harvest.

I get concerned about myself. I know that most of my life and ministry is about dirty stalls and feed troughs. Mine and everybody else’s. And the goal is a not a clean stall. The goal is people, who like strong oxen, are able to carry their load – and someone else’s, as well – who are able to work in their corner of the field and produce a harvest.

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Sunday, October 12, 2008

This Week…

This looks like a great week - and beyond!

  • Jane, Mike Costlow and Stephen Sparks are here hanging out until Tuesday… who knows what all we’ll do, or talk about doing and never do…
  • DeLynn and Neal - from Costa Rica and Ohio - are here Wednesday and Thursday, staying in our home, talking about their ministries and Globe and the future…
  • Friday, Phyllis and I leave for Saginaw, Michigan and their missions conference and related festivities… we’ll be staying with Ken and Joan Cline - our special friends - and ministering in NLCF over the weekend.
  • We’re back in Pensacola on Monday and driving to Valdosta on Wednesday.  We’re going to Fort White High School on Friday night to see them do their super duper football thing.  My brother Keith is principal there and my nephews Matt and Levi play on this undefeated team!
  • Monday 27th is Zach’s birthday, so we’ll celebrate and have a good family time…
  • Tuesday 28th is a get-together for IGM - last year’s class and prospective folks for 2009…
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Saturday, October 11, 2008

Church Signs

I’m amazed at what they (you?) put on church signs… I’m thinking that church signs should impact with grace those who drive by. They should extend welcome and love and acceptance to those riding by. Or that’s what I’m thinking…

These were on the signs near our house:

  • Celebrate Marriage Sunday: One Man, One Woman for life
    • so what’s wrong with this? Nothing except 1 out of every 2 people who drive by are divorced (according to statistics, maybe more). How would that make you feel? Like a failure? Would you want go to church there this Sunday? Would you feel that you would fit in or be pushed away?
  • Unrepentant Sin = Hell
    • true, but is this the place to make this statement? Does it just reek with grace?
  • Times are Hard; Pray Harder
    • again, true. But somehow it puts an undue burden on us to make the hard times better.

So, if these were the choices for me… I’d probably stay home. Even though I’ve been married to the same wonderful woman for 36 years and have this morning already asked for grace and forgiveness in my time of prayer…

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Friday, October 10, 2008

Subtle but right on…

My Facebook buddy Brant Hansen (we know each other on Facebook so you know we’re close!) recently (somewhat) posted this.  He was inspired by my internet author-friend Alan Hirsch’s book The Forgotten Ways.  And I think it’s an amazing post.  Subtle but right on…


Excuse Me While I Single-Handedly Neutralize Al-Qaeda

AlqaedapicthingAlan, in his book, points out that Al-Qaeda is almost impossible to stop.  This is, in large part, due to the way its message works, and the way the work gets carried out.  And he’s absolutely right.

So, in the service of national defense, I propose the following, in order to effectively neutralize the movement.  Let’s get Al-Qaeda to…

1)  Complexify the message

Right now, it’s so simple, it can pass from one to the next, and be easily grasped by the uneducated, the young — everyone.  This is dangerous, because it’s highly contagious, and people on the street feel capable of enlisting others in the cause. 

2)  Construct a less “flat”, more hierarchical structure

Currently, small, underground groups can move nimbly and autonomously, complicating efforts to thwart them.  A more regimented, stratified approach, where some members are left thinking, “I can’t know enough to do anything” would bring the movement to a halt.

3)  Foster “expert” culture, and barriers to entry to the expert class

Promote the idea that the message is not only highly complex, but only some can truly understand it.  Construct extensive barriers to entry to the presumed expert class.  Promote idea that cells lacking a certified member of expert class, it is not equipped to be activated.

4) Focus on knowledge, rather than doing

Complexification and expert-class development will make cells spend immense amounts of time studying the work, even debating theories of the work, rather than doing it.  Better yet…

5) Equate STUDYING the work with the work itself

The cells are called to ACT, of course.  But if we can convince operatives that the work, itself, is in trying to understand the complexity of the work?  They’ll be effectively neutered.  We need to get them to spend large amounts of time in study, gathering to study, believing they don’t know enough, hiring new experts to teach them again and again, and attending teaching events.

They’ll actually believe they’re doing their work when they attend events held by experts.  This will render the cell, and the whole movement, harmless!  Convince them that the most radicalized, militant among them are merely called to bring other non-activated members to the cell events.

6) Sabotage cell multiplication

VERY important!  Cells that operate under simple principles, with motivated operatives, devoted to multiplication?  Very, very dangerous, fast-growing, and pop-culture endangering.  We must stop this in its tracks, and this is done in multiple ways: 

A)  Foster egos and small-time celebrity.  By convincing operatives to set up individual fiefdoms, fewer autonomous cells will be activated.  Rather, the emphasis will be on building larger individual cells with numerous unactivated members.

B)  Make the basic structure highly difficult to replicate.  Al-Qaeda cells currently are, by necessity, simply-structured and easily replicated.  Propagate idea that for cells to begin, planning, experts and capital must be simultaneously accumulated.  Expert motivational speakers will be necessary, plus paid staff with highly specific training and talents.  Operatives will see massively “successful” large cells, and attempt to duplicate them, with very limited success because of the huge inputs required.  This will greatly inhibit growth.

C)  Convince philosophically-aligned, but non-active, members to choose from among most entertaining, high quality, cells that offer services for them. Not only will this engender a harmless, internal focus, it will require IMMENSE amounts of resources and energy.

7) Make operatives really, really busy. 

Replace simple, animating mission with lengthy lists, charts, and programs for cell maintanance.  Convince them that this institutional maintenance is, actually, the mission, itself.

This will leave them will no actual time for conducting actual mission.

8)  Get Al-Qaeda to seek governmental approval. 

Offer tax incentives if necessary.  The larger cells, requiring large edifices, will also require tremendous amounts of capital.  This will also allow a measure of control, to threaten the cell’s tax status, thereby threatening funds for internal programs, when necessary.

Better:  They’ll consider actual operational cells that exist without this governmental approval to be, themselves, invalid!

9)  Co-opt Al-Qaeda with the larger culture. 

Once members are convinced that cell maintenance and study are actually their “mission”, the rest of their lives can be harmlessly integrated with the culture at large.  They’ll be indistinguishable from non-members, and, because of their new understanding of “mission”, effectively equivalent to non-members.

10)  Convince members to wear Al-Qaeda t-shirts with funny sayings and stuff.

Mission accomplished. 

It’ll work to thwart an evil message.  It even works with the good ones.

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Thursday, October 9, 2008

Money

Well, I looked at the news and I listened to the debates and I bought gasoline, so I’ve been thinking a great deal about money these last few days.

Money is a subject very close to most of our hearts. (Two generations ago there was a TV show called HeeHaw with a character named Stringbean who often read a letter from home. When he’d start looking for it, he’d say, “I have it right here. Right here next to my heart!” Then, he’d reach into the back pocket of his overalls and pull out his wallet and the letter… Right here next to my heart! Anyway…).
And everyday we’re confronted by Wall Street fables and foibles. We hear all about the Dow Jones’ peaks and valleys – but many of us (maybe most?) really don’t know what it’s really about. But we do know what gas costs at the pump and what coffee sells for at McDonald’s and what we have to pay for health and homeowners and auto insurance. Money is next to our heart.

I taught a little bit about money in Germany at the Globe Europe Missionsschule. And I gave them these facts:

· The Gospels contain more warn­ings about money and its misuse than any other sub­ject

· One verse in every four verses in Matthew, Mark and Luke deals with money

· One verse in every six in the NT as a whole deals with or has reference to money in one way or another

· Almost half of the Parables of Jesus have reference to money in one way or another; generally warn­ing against covetousness

· The first sin in Israel which bought defeat to the whole camp con­cerned a Babylonish garment, a wedge of silver and gold, the symbol of world finance (JOS 7:20-21)

· The first apostle to fall was Judas. It was over the love of money. He sold Christ for money that he never lived to spend. (JOH 12:4-8; ACT1:25; MAT 26:14-16; 27:3-10)

· The first sin in the early Church con­cerned the giving of mon­ey to the Lord. Note how Satan entered the scene of glory in the early Church over money, even as the generosity of the people was so evi­dent. (ACT 5:1-10)

· The sin of “Simony” concerns mon­ey and seeking to buy the gifts of God with it. (ACT 18:14-24)

But here are some other thoughts about money.

Some people I know are truly energized by money.They love making it and some love sharing it. They are turned-on by the thought of entrepreneurial ventures that can produce money. And many of these enjoy sharing their wealth with others – especially for the sake of the Kingdom of God. For these folks it’s not money for money’s sake. Nor really for the sake of the clout that money brings. They seem to see money as a means of good. They are turned on by the possibilities money bring.

But some folks are entrapped by money.They live to make it and are enamored by the sheer power that it brings. And they look for ways not only to make it, but to hoard it. Making money and hoarding it, is a trap. Wealth – and the position and power associated with having money – is seductive. It steals the joy of living. And making money just to have the security and influence it gives saps the love and enjoyment. Paul warns Timothy: “People who want to get rich fall into temptation and a trap and into many foolish and harmful desires that plunge men into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.”

And me? There have been times that I have had money and have not had money and I can say the times with money were better! But I’ll also answer like my granddaddy. Someone asked him if someone gave him a million dollars, what he would do with it. My granddaddy, a small acreage farmer who despised debt, got quiet and looked at the ground. Then he looked right at the fellow that asked him the question and answered, “If somebody gave me a million dollars, I’d just keep farming ‘til it was all used up.”

And that’s me. If somebody gave me a million dollars, I’d just keep doing what I do until it’s all used up. I’d just keep going and teaching and training and laying foundations and encouraging. I’d just keep doing it until it was all used up. Or I was all used up; whichever came first. I wouldn’t change much about what and how we do it. But I might buy a new suit and sit closer to the front when I flew.

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